Self-Control Education as a Preventive Measure against Toxic Relationships among Students
Keywords:
preventive education, mental health, teenagers, self-control, toxic relationshipsAbstract
This study aims to explore adolescents' experiences in dealing with toxic relationships within their circle of friends and to identify self-control strategies used to maintain mental health. The research was conducted at MTs Berkah Palangkaraya using a qualitative approach through in-depth interviews, observation, and written statements. The interview instrument consisted of five questions that highlighted the respondents' feelings, causes of anxiety, the impact of toxic relationships, and the forms of self-control applied. The results showed that toxic relationships led to decreased self-confidence, stress, anxiety, and destructive behavior. However, some adolescents were able to respond adaptively through the application of self-control, such as keeping their distance, limiting communication, managing emotions, and choosing a healthier social environment. Self-control helps adolescents prevent the impact of toxic friendships, maintain mental health, and build strong psychological resilience. These strategies contribute to helping them escape from harmful friendships. These findings emphasize the importance of self-control education as a preventive measure in building psychological resilience in adolescents.
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